– Hello, my ladies. Hello, hello, hello, love, so just wait, let’s wait for some people to pop up, to pile up. Maybe, I think that’s all right, right? Yeah, the position is okay. Okay, so my name is Greta Bereisaite and I’m dating and relationship coach for women.
And I’m actually just thinking is this a public live or is it, okay, it’s a public one. Oh my god, I was freaking out because I thought actually started the live on a private one but it’s not private, it’s public. Okay, so my name is Greta Bereisaite and I’m dating and relationship coach for women. And for the best dating and relationship tips, please subscribe to my channel and hit the bell to be notified when I upload a new video every Wednesday and Sunday.
And from now on, I do two lives a month, so where I talk about particular topic and we interact and do Q and A’s and all the fun stuff like that. And today’s the topic. Thank you, ladies, hello, welcome, welcome, welcome. And today’s topic for you ladies is the differences between men and women.
Okay, so I actually do have like a little notebook here with my like not very elegant writing (laughs) so I don’t forget anything and we can start, okay? So basically what I’ll do, I will talk about the differences between men and women and I will try and cover as much as I can. Let me just, maybe I won’t touch it. And then I’ll try and cover as much as I can and we can interact in between and if you have any extra questions towards any differences or anything really, but it would be great if it would relate to the topic more, we’ll discuss it, okay?https://mingle2.com/ And talk about it. “Hi Greta from Orlando.” I am feeling a little bit nervous, I don’t know why.
To be honest, for the last week I am feeling a bit anxious so just, you know, I’m just putting it out there. If you see me a bit shaky or anxious, something is in the air. I have no idea why.
So just putting it out there, but anyway, hopefully it will go away. It’s I don’t know, sometimes it just does happen. It’s so weird, it’s like you can be doing lives every single day for like couple of years and sometimes out of the blue, you start to get anxious, so like I don’t know.
If you can explain it for me, I would appreciate it but I don’t know how that goes. Anyway, so the first difference, the most common difference is the pull away. I talk a lot about pull aways in many of my videos so I will try and cover it as much as I can but yeah, I’m not gonna stick just to that. Like the differences that I want to cover is pull aways, girls like nurturing and caring, guys have testosterone so they go hunting, we go for the goals, dreams, and ambitions.
I’ll cover this. I’ll cover women being natural detectives and guys having a vision like that, which is a really funny one. What else do I have?
Women talking and women like to talk to basically share and like in order to feel better. Men talk to solve problems so I will cover all of that. Okay, so let’s start with pull aways.
Okay, so the first, why do men have a need to pull away? Actually, ladies, I don’t know the reason why. It is scientifically proven that men need to pull away but I don’t know the reason why. However, I started recently reading a Bible and I’m gonna read Quran and all the other religious books as well ’cause I’m really interested in them.
And actually Bible is a book of royal rules and actually majority of the coaching does come from these royal books, you know? So I started recently reading a Bible again and it was interesting because it was saying that before the world, like before God designed everything in harmony, right? And then Eve ate an apple and she gave the apple to an Adam, right? And what happened, then God punished them, right? And what God did, so this is what it says in a Bible, what God did to punish them was it made a woman to have pain when she gives birth to children.
It made a man to be the protector, not the protector, it made the man to be the provider of everyone, so kind of punishing him like that, so this is why men should be providers. He should provide for the family, protectors, providers, leaders, and so on. And the interesting bit, it made a woman to long for her husband, right?
So this is what kind of got me a little bit. Not an aha moment but a bit like curiosity because guys have a pull away need. Women do not have a pull away need, right? So a guy punishing a woman by longing for her husband, it kind of explains the pull away need, you know, because we as women, we don’t have it and when guys pull away from us naturally, majority of us freak out and panic and run after the guys because we don’t have this need so we start to think like oh my god, does he not love me anymore?
Why is he like not texting me for a couple of days? Like what is happening? We literally freak out because we don’t have this need naturally, right? So ladies, here are the tips.
If a guy is pulling away from you, let him pull away from you. It is a natural need. There can be different reasons of why men need to pull away.
So one of the reasons could be that he’s just stressed at work and he wants to sort his problems by himself and you need to trust him and let him do that. The other pull away reason could be that after the loving time together, a guy needs to pull away because then you have a really loving time together, right? What happens is oxytocin, which is a love hormone, makes guys’ testosterone level drop down, right? And in order for that testosterone level to go up again, a guy needs to pull away from a woman, right?
So he needs to like have space from her to kind of put it back up. So the way I usually said in my videos, it’s like the battery. You’re having like an amazing time together, right? And he’s like a phone, right, and he’s like his battery is dying, right, it’s dying.
And after you finish, let’s say you went home and stuff, his battery now is dead. He can’t touch, he can’t contact you, he can’t do anything, right? So he needs to pull away from you and put himself on a, plug himself into the recharge and charge it all back up. When he’s all charged up, then he will come back to you and start to pursue you again properly.
So you must let him to charge his battery. If you don’t let him to charge his battery, he will always be on a low and when he’s on a low and you’re chasing him, you’re not gonna get anything from him. You’re gonna be disappointed, you’re gonna be pissed off, you’re gonna be like you’re not texting, you’re not chasing, you don’t do this to me, you don’t do that to me.
So you’re not gonna be able to get anything from him, so give him the time and space to go away from you to recharge his own battery and let him come back to you by himself, okay? The other reasons why men need to pull away. Obviously if he is not into you, he will be pulling away from you. However if he is not into you and he is pulling away from you or he’s actually ghosting you, the best thing to do is to leave him to it as well. Because when you leave a man to it, this is when he, after a while he will start to wonder about you and he will start to miss you.
And when he starting to miss you and wonder about you because you’re creating uncertainty, this is when he is very likely to come to you because he’ll be like oh, what is Greta doing, what is she up to? She was a doormat before but now she’s not contacting me, like what is she doing, you know, like why is she not contacting me? Like was she not that into me?
Maybe she’s dating someone else, you know? And this is when he’ll be like okay, let me check in with her if she’s still obsessed with me, right? So then he checks in with you, this is when he’s pursuing you first.
And then he’s pursuing you first and let’s say she’s been doormat before and now you’re gonna practice to be high-value, like so you’re like hey, like nothing happened, there is no issue whatsoever, totally forgot about you. Oh hey, yeah, you know? And then you act like nothing happened and start doing things high-value. This is when you actually have a potential to turn it around, okay?
So this is the pull aways. Let me see, am I forgetting anything? So loving time together, stress, he’s not that interested. Playing games, okay, of course. Power games.
The natural pull away, ladies, is about three, four days. Then nice guys, they usually pull away for two, three, four days, okay? And the power games for guys who are cheeky, the guys who know the game, the guys who watch the dating coaches, and there is so many dating coaches for men right now, right? So it’s actually very likely that the guy you are dating will be watching the dating coaches for men who are coaching the game, who keep teaching how to manipulate women and so on, so you need to be like really aware of this stuff not to fall into that trap to be manipulated. So what a lot of dating coaches for men actually say is, you know, don’t contact a woman for like a week or two weeks in order to kind of get her to crawl after you.
Because everybody knows that we, as a woman, we panic when guy’s pulling away, right? So because we panic, the dating coaches, we know about psychology, right? So we’re like okay, she’s gonna be panicking when you don’t text her for a couple of days and she’ll like start acting all low value and start chasing you and start acting all pathetic and putting her heart, wearing her heart on her sleeve.
This is when you’ll have a power and you can do whatever that you want. So the goal, ladies, is don’t run after him when he’s pulling away. If he really, really likes you, if he is into you, after a while when he sees that his game is not working, when he sees that his four days of no contact are not working, one week of no contact are not working, two weeks of no contact are not working, if you’re not chasing him, he will freak out himself and he will start to chase you. And he’ll be freaked out like crazy because he’ll be like oh my god, this dating coach is totally rubbish. He was telling me nonsense, this girl is not chasing me.
What have I done? He’ll be freaking out like crazy, so get him into this zone rather than him playing a game and you falling for it, and then he’ll be like oh my god, I played this game, it worked, she started chasing me like crazy. Now I’m gonna like whenever I would want her attention, I’ll just run and I’ll just give her no contact for a week or two weeks and she’ll just start chasing after me like crazy, right? Also ladies, when you chase after a guy, you give him security and power. Security and power are not guys’ love needs.
You will actually, when a guy has power and security in a relationship, the relationship is always ugly. Literally, ladies, the relationship is 99.99% ugly when the guy has security, safety, and power in a relationship. Why? Because when a woman is pursuing, she’s chasing, she’s giving him too much attention, she’s begging, she’s pleading, all of that, she is not fulfilling any of his love needs and one of his love needs is uncertainty.
Obviously there is way, way more than that, it’s not just uncertainty. If you will only give a guy uncertainty, he’ll think you’re not that interested and things will not work out. But if there is no uncertainty in a relationship, you know, he’ll just feel too safe, he’ll start getting too bored, he’s gonna be like, you know what, ladies, think about it like this. When you’re dating a guy who is doing everything for you, like everything, and he’s acting quite desperate and low value and giving and giving and giving and giving and texting and asking for attention, and controlling and all of that, right?
You’re gonna get turned off. You know, you’re gonna get turned off and you’ll feel all the power and you will really get turned off. If he’s overdoing it, right? So the same goes for a guy. He will get turned off if you are overdoing it.
However for a woman, a woman’s love need is safety, so we actually, we do get turned off and it’s like overly done from every single angle but we still like it to some point, whereas guys who don’t like it at all because their love need is uncertainty. So yeah, I kind of said it, now I’m kind of taking it back. ‘Cause yeah, women love that so that was like not the best example. Because like women love the safety so much, so when the guy is like pursuing you like crazy, it’s kind of, it’s nice.
– Hello, my ladies. Hello, hello, hello, love, so just wait, let’s wait for some people to pop up, to pile up. Maybe, I think that’s all right, right? Yeah, the position is okay. Okay, so my name is Greta Bereisaite and I’m dating and relationship coach for women.
And I’m actually just thinking is this a public live or is it, okay, it’s a public one. Oh my god, I was freaking out because I thought actually started the live on a private one but it’s not private, it’s public. Okay, so my name is Greta Bereisaite and I’m dating and relationship coach for women. And for the best dating and relationship tips, please subscribe to my channel and hit the bell to be notified when I upload a new video every Wednesday and Sunday.
And from now on, I do two lives a month, so where I talk about particular topic and we interact and do Q and A’s and all the fun stuff like that. And today’s the topic. Thank you, ladies, hello, welcome, welcome, welcome. And today’s topic for you ladies is the differences between men and women.
Okay, so I actually do have like a little notebook here with my like not very elegant writing (laughs) so I don’t forget anything and we can start, okay? So basically what I’ll do, I will talk about the differences between men and women and I will try and cover as much as I can. Let me just, maybe I won’t touch it. And then I’ll try and cover as much as I can and we can interact in between and if you have any extra questions towards any differences or anything really, but it would be great if it would relate to the topic more, we’ll discuss it, okay? And talk about it. “Hi Greta from Orlando.” I am feeling a little bit nervous, I don’t know why.
To be honest, for the last week I am feeling a bit anxious so just, you know, I’m just putting it out there. If you see me a bit shaky or anxious, something is in the air. I have no idea why.
So just putting it out there, but anyway, hopefully it will go away. It’s I don’t know, sometimes it just does happen. It’s so weird, it’s like you can be doing lives every single day for like couple of years and sometimes out of the blue, you start to get anxious, so like I don’t know.
If you can explain it for me, I would appreciate it but I don’t know how that goes. Anyway, so the first difference, the most common difference is the pull away. I talk a lot about pull aways in many of my videos so I will try and cover it as much as I can but yeah, I’m not gonna stick just to that. Like the differences that I want to cover is pull aways, girls like nurturing and caring, guys have testosterone so they go hunting, we go for the goals, dreams, and ambitions.
I’ll cover this. I’ll cover women being natural detectives and guys having a vision like that, which is a really funny one. What else do I have?
Women talking and women like to talk to basically share and like in order to feel better. Men talk to solve problems so I will cover all of that. Okay, so let’s start with pull aways.
Okay, so the first, why do men have a need to pull away? Actually, ladies, I don’t know the reason why. It is scientifically proven that men need to pull away but I don’t know the reason why. However, I started recently reading a Bible and I’m gonna read Quran and all the other religious books as well ’cause I’m really interested in them.
And actually Bible is a book of royal rules and actually majority of the coaching does come from these royal books, you know? So I started recently reading a Bible again and it was interesting because it was saying that before the world, like before God designed everything in harmony, right? And then Eve ate an apple and she gave the apple to an Adam, right? And what happened, then God punished them, right? And what God did, so this is what it says in a Bible, what God did to punish them was it made a woman to have pain when she gives birth to children.
It made a man to be the protector, not the protector, it made the man to be the provider of everyone, so kind of punishing him like that, so this is why men should be providers. He should provide for the family, protectors, providers, leaders, and so on. And the interesting bit, it made a woman to long for her husband, right?
So this is what kind of got me a little bit. Not an aha moment but a bit like curiosity because guys have a pull away need. Women do not have a pull away need, right? So a guy punishing a woman by longing for her husband, it kind of explains the pull away need, you know, because we as women, we don’t have it and when guys pull away from us naturally, majority of us freak out and panic and run after the guys because we don’t have this need so we start to think like oh my god, does he not love me anymore?
Why is he like not texting me for a couple of days? Like what is happening? We literally freak out because we don’t have this need naturally, right? So ladies, here are the tips.
If a guy is pulling away from you, let him pull away from you. It is a natural need. There can be different reasons of why men need to pull away.
So one of the reasons could be that he’s just stressed at work and he wants to sort his problems by himself and you need to trust him and let him do that. The other pull away reason could be that after the loving time together, a guy needs to pull away because then you have a really loving time together, right? What happens is oxytocin, which is a love hormone, makes guys’ testosterone level drop down, right? And in order for that testosterone level to go up again, a guy needs to pull away from a woman, right?
So he needs to like have space from her to kind of put it back up. So the way I usually said in my videos, it’s like the battery. You’re having like an amazing time together, right? And he’s like a phone, right, and he’s like his battery is dying, right, it’s dying.
And after you finish, let’s say you went home and stuff, his battery now is dead. He can’t touch, he can’t contact you, he can’t do anything, right? So he needs to pull away from you and put himself on a, plug himself into the recharge and charge it all back up. When he’s all charged up, then he will come back to you and start to pursue you again properly.
So you must let him to charge his battery. If you don’t let him to charge his battery, he will always be on a low and when he’s on a low and you’re chasing him, you’re not gonna get anything from him. You’re gonna be disappointed, you’re gonna be pissed off, you’re gonna be like you’re not texting, you’re not chasing, you don’t do this to me, you don’t do that to me.
So you’re not gonna be able to get anything from him, so give him the time and space to go away from you to recharge his own battery and let him come back to you by himself, okay? The other reasons why men need to pull away. Obviously if he is not into you, he will be pulling away from you. However if he is not into you and he is pulling away from you or he’s actually ghosting you, the best thing to do is to leave him to it as well. Because when you leave a man to it, this is when he, after a while he will start to wonder about you and he will start to miss you.
And when he starting to miss you and wonder about you because you’re creating uncertainty, this is when he is very likely to come to you because he’ll be like oh, what is Greta doing, what is she up to? She was a doormat before but now she’s not contacting me, like what is she doing, you know, like why is she not contacting me? Like was she not that into me?
Maybe she’s dating someone else, you know? And this is when he’ll be like okay, let me check in with her if she’s still obsessed with me, right? So then he checks in with you, this is when he’s pursuing you first.
And then he’s pursuing you first and let’s say she’s been doormat before and now you’re gonna practice to be high-value, like so you’re like hey, like nothing happened, there is no issue whatsoever, totally forgot about you. Oh hey, yeah, you know? And then you act like nothing happened and start doing things high-value. This is when you actually have a potential to turn it around, okay?
So this is the pull aways. Let me see, am I forgetting anything? So loving time together, stress, he’s not that interested. Playing games, okay, of course. Power games.
The natural pull away, ladies, is about three, four days. Then nice guys, they usually pull away for two, three, four days, okay? And the power games for guys who are cheeky, the guys who know the game, the guys who watch the dating coaches, and there is so many dating coaches for men right now, right? So it’s actually very likely that the guy you are dating will be watching the dating coaches for men who are coaching the game, who keep teaching how to manipulate women and so on, so you need to be like really aware of this stuff not to fall into that trap to be manipulated. So what a lot of dating coaches for men actually say is, you know, don’t contact a woman for like a week or two weeks in order to kind of get her to crawl after you.
Because everybody knows that we, as a woman, we panic when guy’s pulling away, right? So because we panic, the dating coaches, we know about psychology, right? So we’re like okay, she’s gonna be panicking when you don’t text her for a couple of days and she’ll like start acting all low value and start chasing you and start acting all pathetic and putting her heart, wearing her heart on her sleeve.
This is when you’ll have a power and you can do whatever that you want. So the goal, ladies, is don’t run after him when he’s pulling away. If he really, really likes you, if he is into you, after a while when he sees that his game is not working, when he sees that his four days of no contact are not working, one week of no contact are not working, two weeks of no contact are not working, if you’re not chasing him, he will freak out himself and he will start to chase you. And he’ll be freaked out like crazy because he’ll be like oh my god, this dating coach is totally rubbish. He was telling me nonsense, this girl is not chasing me.
What have I done? He’ll be freaking out like crazy, so get him into this zone rather than him playing a game and you falling for it, and then he’ll be like oh my god, I played this game, it worked, she started chasing me like crazy. Now I’m gonna like whenever I would want her attention, I’ll just run and I’ll just give her no contact for a week or two weeks and she’ll just start chasing after me like crazy, right? Also ladies, when you chase after a guy, you give him security and power. Security and power are not guys’ love needs.
You will actually, when a guy has power and security in a relationship, the relationship is always ugly. Literally, ladies, the relationship is 99.99% ugly when the guy has security, safety, and power in a relationship. Why? Because when a woman is pursuing, she’s chasing, she’s giving him too much attention, she’s begging, she’s pleading, all of that, she is not fulfilling any of his love needs and one of his love needs is uncertainty.
Obviously there is way, way more than that, it’s not just uncertainty. If you will only give a guy uncertainty, he’ll think you’re not that interested and things will not work out. But if there is no uncertainty in a relationship, you know, he’ll just feel too safe, he’ll start getting too bored, he’s gonna be like, you know what, ladies, think about it like this. When you’re dating a guy who is doing everything for you, like everything, and he’s acting quite desperate and low value and giving and giving and giving and giving and texting and asking for attention, and controlling and all of that, right?
You’re gonna get turned off. You know, you’re gonna get turned off and you’ll feel all the power and you will really get turned off. If he’s overdoing it, right? So the same goes for a guy. He will get turned off if you are overdoing it.
However for a woman, a woman’s love need is safety, so we actually, we do get turned off and it’s like overly done from every single angle but we still like it to some point, whereas guys who don’t like it at all because their love need is uncertainty. So yeah, I kind of said it, now I’m kind of taking it back. ‘Cause yeah, women love that so that was like not the best example. Because like women love the safety so much, so when the guy is like pursuing you like crazy, it’s kind of, it’s nice.
However, yeah, it kind of, hmm. Sorry, I’m just thinking now. (laughs) Women do love the safety, okay, but some women actually do like a bit of uncertainty and I usually find it that it’s fire signs. But safety is a woman’s love need and like in majority, like normal, like as we normally design, majority of woman do love safety. If he’s pursuing you properly, not like crazy crazy crazy, you know, like without any limits, like but in a proper nice way.
Okay, so the next one, nurturing and caring. Let me see your comments. Wait, how do I? Okay, here we go. “I like uncertainty just a little.” Yeah, uncertainty a little, yes, it’s health. This is what it does, this is what I mean, ladies. Women need a little bit of uncertainty, right?
Like as this girl just said. I like uncertainty just a little, right? Now men need a little bit of safety. Same thing. You see?
So we are literally like so different in there to complement each other. A woman’s majority, the biggest, the majority of need is safety but she does need a little bit of uncertainty. A man’s majority of need is uncertainty but he does need a little bit of safety.
You know, so this is how it is. It’s kind of beautiful how we are complementing each other but at the same time it’s like, you know, it is hard work. “You inspire me a lot, Greta. “I wish I had a friend like you. “Only safety and my dad never gave me security in his love “so I can’t find a man.” Ladies, I’m gonna tell you something. Majority of us didn’t have the nice upbringing. You know, I have so many clients who say like “Oh, my parents didn’t have a happy relationship. “I am from an abusive family. “I had this in this upbringing.” Ladies, majority of us did.
Literally majority of us did. You know, like I was watching Tony Robbins like couple years ago and I remember watching his event and he asked the audience, no, there was a woman who came up to him and she said “Tony, but I’m different, I’m very different.” And he’s like “How are you different?” And she said, “You know what, “I was trying to commit a suicide, you know.” And then he was on a stage, he said this. He said “Guys, how many of you from this room “have been close at committing suicide “or even tried to?” And actually majority of the room raised their hands.
And when he turns around to her and he says “Like you see, we are not that different.” Because majority of people came from like either abusive upbringing here or there, majority of us like people, like if I’m gonna talk about my Eastern European background, you don’t even want to hear about it, like seriously. Very like, you know? So it’s just like, we can change that. But positive, if we gonna think about positive, you can change it. You can change who you are, you know?
You can change who you are, you can change your DNA, you can change literally everything about it. It’s up to you to change who you are. And all of this but my dad, my mom, my granddad, my this, my this and that, that is all literally just excuses.
Same as guys say excuses. “I’m emotionally unavailable.” How many of us girls are emotionally unavailable? No, it’s excuses. If he’s not into you, he’ll tell you “I’m emotionally unavailable.” You know, if he’s into you, he will, and he sees you’re better than an ex, he’ll become suddenly emotionally all available. So it’s just excuses. “Greta, how does a woman stop on and off behavior “if consistent behavior. “Do we just say it or just leave a man alone period? “How does a woman stop on and off behavior, “the inconsistent behavior? “Do we just say it or just leave a man alone period?” I’m not understanding your question.
If you’re saying how does a woman stop inconsistent behavior so for example, if you have been losing emotional control and you want to control your emotions, you want to be the correct way, you want to be your best self, it takes a long time, ladies, it takes a very long time to be high value. It can take from three months to a year. A couple of my clients have been trying to be high value for a couple of years, right? And it all comes down to self love. If you really love yourself, you just don’t know how to behave a correct way, once you start following, once you will start to know how to behave, how to control your emotions, what are like how to complement each other, you just follow it and you’re gonna be done in like three months, four months, five months, you will know how to behave, you’re gonna be nailing it.
If you don’t love yourself much, it’s going to be very, very hard to become a high-value woman and sometimes it can take literally years, right? This is why my VIPs have members which haven’t really left my VIP group for like more than a couple of years actually, a year and a half, you know, so it’s just how it is. And also as a queen, you need to surround yourself with other queens.
So if you want to do that, you need to join my VIPs. And the link is in the video description if you’re interested. Let me see. Okay, actually let me go a bit more. So women.
Women nurturing, caring, right? A woman like to nurture, care, talk about our feelings, emotions, and so on. Guys like to go for their goals and ambitions.
Guys like to hunt. Why? Because women have estrogen so we are naturally caring and nurturing.
We like to talk about our feelings. The more we talk, the better we feel. For example, if you had a bad day at work or you just had a bad day and you come back home, you’re like oh my god, I feel like there’s so much tension in me, like oh my god, I need to release it, and you’re like literally walking around, you don’t know what to do. Then you call your friend and you talk about it. And by talking about it, you release everything, all that tension literally disappears.
Then you know, like you hang up that phone, then you’re like there’s still a bit of tension left, you’re like okay, let me pick up another phone call, call another friend. And then your tension starts to release. So the more you literally talk about the same subject, the different friends or sometimes with the same friend or even to yourself, the more you talk it out, the better you feel. So you really stress by talking basically.
Guys do not relieve stress by talking. Guys release stress by going to their cave and sorting their problems by themselves. Right, he don’t release, he don’t talk for the sake of talking.
If they are talking, they have a goal to talk. And so for him, then you started talking to him and you’re like talking about, let’s say something happened at work when you remembered something, another story which was bad when some family issues, when some daddy issues, mommy issues, sister issues, and so on, and now you’re sharing, oversharing, and you like have like this sharing this huge whole bubble. And your boyfriend is probably thinking why does this woman have so many problems and how am I supposed to solve all of her problems because this is probably why she’s sharing these problems with me so I would solve them for her. Him as a guy because he talks in order to basically either ask questions or sort problems, so him as a guy, then you’re oversharing this whole bubble, he’s like oh my god, there’s so many problems to solve.
You know, like he won’t know where to start. And then he’ll start to solve your problems, like step by step, little by little, right? And you’re not gonna be happy because then you’re trying to talk and share feelings, emotions, like the whole baggage, everything, history, family history, whatever has happened 20 years ago. He will be like solving it for you and you’re not gonna be happy with that because you’ll be like this is not what I need. So then you ladies need to talk in order to feel better, the best person to call is who?
Give me an answer. Who is the best person to call when you need to talk? I’ll wait for that answer. And the next one, oh, this is a funny one.
This is a funny one. While you girls give me the answer. Girlfriends, here we go.
I love the way you have just explained it, so funny but true. Yes, girlfriends, friends, your true friends. Here you go, here you go.
And ladies, like if you come back home and he doesn’t want to talk, don’t talk. Call your girlfriends. Literally just don’t talk.
Leave him to it, call your girlfriends. That’s fine, he’ll actually appreciate you for it. We talk through sharing, bonding, all of that. We meet another girlfriend, be like oh my god, blah blah blah blah blah, all day long, you know?
Literally like when you don’t have a business, you’re like talking to your girlfriends all day long. You know, and this is how you bond. Guys don’t bond through talking.
So if he doesn’t want to talk after work, don’t worry about it. Don’t think like oh my god, we not gonna have this conversation now after work, he’s not gonna feel that connection and you’ll fall out of love. No, this is not how it goes.
Guys bond through having fun together. If you’re not gonna talk to him after work one day or two days or even three days, it’s okay. It’s okay.
I know you’ll feel more connection, he’s not gonna feel more connection just because you, you know, like leave him to it, let him have his space, call your girlfriend. You’ll actually be more of a challenge if you call your girlfriend instead of talking to him everything. And this is how you have more mystery too and you’re not gonna be an open book. And mystery is the power of seduction, not an open book, right?
Okay, women are natural detectives. Hmm. Whereas guys, they are not, okay?
So how are women natural detectives without even trying to be? And I actually been accused of this myself and it’s really annoying because it’s like I’m not trying, like I’m the type of person obviously, you know, I do, I am being high value all the time. But you can’t close your eyes when you see something. So how women are natural detectives? Women are natural detectives because we have a wide vision, right?
Yeah, women’s intuition, yes, and we have a wide vision. If you look at your parents, if you look at your boyfriend, I live with my nephew, if I look at my nephew as well, right? Then for example you walk into a room, right, and you see everything. I literally when I walk into the room, I can see what’s behind the TV, what’s down, what’s up, what is like literally everything, like everything is clear. Guys, their vision is like this.
So if he wants to see something, he needs to turn. Like he sees that, when he turns sees that, he turns his eyes sort like, like this is his vision. This is why guys when they lose their phone, right, be like looking everywhere, be like lifting pillows, all of that, like oh, can you look for it? Like for example, guys will say sometimes like “Oh, Greta, can you look for it?” And I’m thinking I don’t need to look for it, it’s right there. Whereas a guy will actually go looking for it until he finds it.
It’s really funny. Even if you look, guys, yeah, it’s like horse with blinders, 100%. Even if you look when you open a fridge, the way guy looks into a fridge, it’s like in the different shelf he looks from like a different angle.
He literally like goes like down like that. Again, because their vision is like this. It’s so funny. Or for example, why do people say that men are better drivers, right?
It’s not that guys are better drivers but they, because they are focused more like this, right, when you’re in a car, when you’re speeding and you’re focused like this, you are gonna be naturally better. Like okay, when a woman is in a car, she sees everything. She sees the forest, she sees the animal, she sees the big car next to it, she sees with, so she’s aware of everything, right? So for her to speed like crazy, she is a bit intimidated because she’s aware of everything, right? Whereas the guy when he’s driving, he’s just like this, so it’s easy for him to speed and be a good driver because he is like this.
It’s really hilarious. Okay, I think I kind of covered more or less so let’s do the questions. Let me see what I missed. Perfect, let’s do the questions. Oh, and ladies, you need to come to my meet-and-greet.
I’m doing a meet-and-greet on 8th of February in London and all the details are in my video description. Meet-and-greet, so two hours, goodies, lots of bonuses and all of that. You can even have dinner with me and share if you want to.
You know, so all the details are in the video description. I don’t do meet-and-greets but now I’m doing one in London. Very, very posh, very fancy place in Mayfair.
You have to come. If I have changed your life, you have to come and see me so we can chat. Let me see your questions.
Okay, can someone make a comment because I can’t see things popping on a screen unless somebody makes a comment. Okay, here we go. So I’m gonna see who to answer that I haven’t answered yet. “What to reply if an ex texted me “and say I miss talking to you. “Does he really miss me or just testing the waters?” If a guy, like it really depends. What’s your situation with an ex? How did everything ended?
How, like what was what, you know? Like if everything crashed very, very ugly and he kind of needs to make things up to you and he says “I miss talking to you,” I mean that is a sweet thing to say. That’s a sweet thing to say but you can’t say like “Oh, I miss you too,” because like if he really messed things up, you know. But if you maybe want him back or you wondering shall I give him a chance?
Maybe I should check, has he changed? Because guys, like I do believe that people do change because I know I have changed a lot. I am nothing what I was, let’s see, 10 years ago or even seven years ago. So you know, like so the same thing with guys as well.
We grow, we evolve. Okay, so others grow more than others, you know, but if you haven’t, if things fell apart and then you are thinking of maybe having an ex back because he’s pursuing you five years later, you know, like it’s not, if you’re actually having this thought, it’s not gonna hurt like to go on a date if you want to and see has the person evolved? Has he changed? How much has he changed, you know?
And obviously if he hasn’t, well, then it’s like going five years backwards. No, it doesn’t make sense, right? If he has, well, then you need to behave as the best version of yourself and see how it goes. So just really depends on the circumstances.
If the ex texts you I miss you, it really depends on the circumstances. If things finish really, really nicely, you can actually say “I miss you too.” If things finished quite ugly but you’re kind of thinking maybe I should give us another chance, just reply with hi, just be like hey. You know, and see what he says. See is he stepping things up?
Because if things finished ugly and he wants you back, he needs to be the one pursuing and stepping it up, so you just need to listen to what he’s offering and what he’s got to say. After you listen to what he’s offering and what he’s got to say, then you need to see with his actions. You know, is he stepping things up? If it’s just words and like I changed, blah blah blah, I love you so much, all of that, and you see it with actions it’s nothing, it’s all the same thing, obviously you’re not taking him back.
You know, so. Again, somebody please make a comment, all the stuff disappeared from the screen. Maybe I should, I don’t know, I’m scared to press something that would not, you know, somebody just please make a comment. To say hi, thumbs up, anything, literally anything, so I can look at the comments and answer.
Yes, thank you. Okay, perfect. “Greta, it has been 12 days of a pull away “from my long-distance boyfriend of 1 1/2 years. “He was being rude to me and kind of just button-pushing “so I ignored him and stopped initiating.” Well done. “Now neither of us contacted, help.” Stick to it, stick to it. Stick to it because he needs to come around.
If he was really rude to you and disrespectful and now he’s playing this power game and he’s actually not texting you, you know, and instead of coming and apologizing. Yes, it will take a guy some time to come and apologize, especially the ego and all of that, right? But if you know for a fact that it was his fault and instead of like stepping up and actually coming to you, he’s disappearing on you for 12 days hoping that you will chase him, don’t do that.
And when he does come to you, if he comes a bit too late or even now, I would literally just say this is not working for me. Because not only that he has disrespected you and been rude to you, on top of that he is pulling away hoping that you will be like oh my god, I love him so much, and start chasing him. That is not good enough.
And this way when he eventually comes back and you say “This is not working for me.” This is when you’ll actually set in a boundary. And when you will say “This is not working for me,” this is when you’ll see is he gonna step things up with his actions and think like oh fuck, I really messed up and this was really, like what I did was horrible and she’s obviously not gonna put up with that. So either he’ll try and step things up and if he steps things up, that’s great ’cause you set in the boundary and then you’re gonna like see do you want him back and stuff like that. Let him step things up, let him prove himself to you. But yeah, that’s basically what you do, but yeah. “Hi, Greta. “How to notice a guy’s true intention?” Through actions, actions, everything’s actions.
A guy’s true intention in the beginning is usually just to have some fun basically. It’s, you know, like it’s basically a game and have some fun. Majorities of guys’ true intention is that.
So but when he’s investing into you and if he’s enjoying the moment with you, if you’re connecting and you continuously like seeing him, through his actions towards you, this is how you will see his intention towards you. Also obviously when you’re being the best version of yourself and so on, he will start to introduce you to family and friends and you know, like this is when you see his true intention. And ladies, keep it in mind that it takes time for a guy to fall in love. He’s not gonna have this incredible amazing intentions after a couple of weeks of spending time with you. A couple of weeks spending time with you, basically just be like being on his best behavior, charming and so on to impress you so you would like him. “What is the good response if your guy tell you “not to be angry “in some bad situations was been made before?” Let it go.
Yeah, try let it go. I understand like guys usually don’t hold onto stuff, whereas we women, we do, and we literally like collect this information for the time when we’re ready to explode and eat him alive. We don’t do that, that’s not high value, okay?
This is not how it is. Yeah, it’s really funny actually. We as women, I just literally remembered it now because I haven’t like, yeah, I haven’t done it for like ever. But in the past, I do remember it used to be like you let things pile up and you collect the information and then you literally explode, which is insane and very low value thing to do and do not do that, okay?
This is like it’s very natural for a woman to be like that but don’t do that. So what you do, you setting the boundaries through actions. Right, this is the best way to set in boundaries, like through the action step by step.
You didn’t like something, you tell him please don’t talk to me this way. You didn’t like something else, you set in a boundary. You didn’t like something else, you set in a boundary. You don’t just collect things for a like couple of months or six months and then you explode on him with everything.
That’s not how it works. And then you explode like this, he’ll just call you crazy and he’ll run away from you. He’ll literally pull away from you forever, right? So instead of going like this, just go like hmm, boundary, boundary, boundary, boundary.
With action. Okay, so I lost the questions again. Maybe if I’ll press on this? No. Can someone send me a dot again?
We love the dots. So it flashes on my screen. Okay, here we go, a flower. Thank you. Okay, let’s see. “Should you let a guy go if he never texts between dates?” Oh. “Responds only in evening and confirms last minute “even if date is set up in advance, “but is on his best behavior during dates.” He’s watching dating coaches.
He is watching dating coaches. This is what you described as literally what dating coaches say to coach and I literally could name you them, like the ones who do do that and it’s really ridiculous and it’s sad and I’m sorry that you have to go through this and I’m actually sorry for the guys because a lot of women are not gonna put up with that. But he’s watching dating coaches and this is what dating coaches for men tell guys to do.
Ask her out, be charming, sweep her off her feet, disappear on her until you ask her out again, and then you basically sweep her off her feet, disappear on her until, so yeah, this is literally what it is. And to be honest, I think it’s a very wrong information that those specific dating coaches are giving to guys because if a woman is on a fence. If she’s totally hooked on a guy, yes, she might actually be texting him in between and getting all desperate. But if a woman is on a fence and the guy asks her out, right, and he does his best but she’s still on a fence and when he doesn’t text her until the next date, she’ll lose interest. I literally had this.
I am gonna share because I literally had this. So I was talking to this guy on dating site, right? And first I was like I’m not sure is he my type or not, you know, but he was pursuing me insanely, like really pursuing me properly and I love when guys do that. That turns me on, that’s hot, I love that.
Like if you’re not pursuing me properly, you literally have no chance, like I’m not into that, so you need to show me in every single way that you’re into me. And he started pursuing me like crazy and I was like okay, you know what, maybe I would go out with him because like he’s pursuing properly. And then he asked me out and he said the place where he picked a very nice posh place, blah blah blah. First he asked me out at the last minute, I said can do but please let me know in advance, like the earliest I can do is one week in advance. So we arranged one week in advance.
Well, he arranged it. He literally gave me time and date and everything. It was supposed to be Saturday like 7:00 p.m. For a whole week, I didn’t hear from him.
For a whole week. On Friday, he text me to confirm it. And by that time, I was turned off.
I was turned off because there was no persistence. There was like if you as a woman, you’re sitting on the fence already and you’re liking the guy pursuing and being persistent with you and when he asked you out, you’re like okay, cool, great. So he needs to stay in touch and pursue you in between to keep you interested so you end up going on that date.
Because if he doesn’t do that, you lose interest. So what dating coach, what those guys are coaching men, it does not make sense. Like it works on women who are desperate, you’re like oh my god, I need a boyfriend, I’m still single, blah blah blah.
Yes, it will work on this type of woman because you’re gonna be like oh my god, I thought he asked me on a date and now he disappears. I’m gonna talk, you know, chase and chase and chase ’cause like oh my god, he asked me out. But you women who are not desperate, this shit does not work. Because you’re like okay, you’re not pursuing me, why would I go on a date with you? A million more fish in the sea, you know?
So it was just, yeah. “Greta, I get turned off by flakiness but if he is a catch.” No, how can a flaky guy be a catch? Doesn’t make sense. A flaky guy is never a catch. A flaky, ladies, write it down.
A flaky guy is never a catch. Just because a guy looks good, just because a guy has a business, just because a guy is whatever, a flaky guy is never a catch. A guy who is consistent, a guy who is pursuing you, a guy who is investing into you, a guy who is showing interest, a guy that you bond with and have fun with and you know that you can count on him, a guy who can give you safety and protection and take the lead sometimes and the guy who is generous and motivates and supports your goals and ambitions, that’s a catch.
A flaky guy is never a catch. Right? It could be Mr.
President. If he’s flaky, he is never a catch. Thank you, Loulou. “Greta, what do you think about men who never want to marry? “We are in a relationship for six years “but he do nothing to make me his wife. “I think I need to let him go.” Well, I don’t know how you have been in this relationship. Maybe you’ve been giving him too much certainty and security.
Maybe you had some low value behaviors, this is why he doesn’t want to marry you. If a guy feels really safe and secure, it is very likely that he’s just comfy and his excuse will be “I never want to get married.” You know, so like because I don’t know how you have been in this relationship, we can’t really say is it because he never wants to get married? It could just be that he’s unsure, he’s unsure about making you his wife.
And guys who are unsure about making you their wives are usually because you’re not being as like this dream wife material. The other reason could also be again, too much safety and security. If he’s got you all safe, you know, then he is like okay, she’s not gonna go anywhere so why would I marry her? I got her, you know, I got the baby, I’ve got the house, I got her, I got her business.
Why would I, you know, like I’ll take my time. So but yeah. So but saying like “I’m emotionally unavailable. “My parents got a divorce. “It was just my mom who raised me or my dad who raised me.” We all been through shit, okay?
Like it’s, again, it’s very rare that somebody was born just into this beautiful lovely healthy family. We all carry a baggage. You know, we literally all do. So like don’t even, you know. “Love you.” Love you too.
Okay. “Is it possible to reverse “when I unknowingly portrayed myself.” Oh, no, it’s disappearing, okay. “Myself as someone who belongs in a bucket “of one of many girl types “now that I know not to show off a masculine energy.” Yes, you can reverse that, ladies. Ladies, you can reverse it. You can reverse it and actually the next YouTube video, which I just filmed today, it’s all about that. The challenges, my next YouTube video will be on the challenges that you will face if you want to fix a broken relationship. So there will be challenges.
I don’t want to say the stuff what I said in that video ’cause there will be no reason for you to watch that video. Let me see what time it is. Okay, I can do a couple more questions, so come on, girls, fire up.
I need that dot, okay, here we go. “The issue is unfortunately there are too many “low value ladies allowing guys to behave like that “so you will be surprised flakiness is working for.” Yes, that is an issue. That is definitely an issue. That is definitely an issue. Okay, I’ll tell you. How shall I say it?
I’m kind of trying to think like I kind of want to share a personal story, stories. I think I will, why not, right? Obviously we won’t say any names. This is how it is.
This is how it’s been with a couple of guys actually I have dated. It’s literally been two guys who literally behaved the same way. And it’s really interesting because both of those guys are an amazing catch, as you girls say, flaky but amazing catch, right? Literally both of them, incredible catches, both athletes, just what I like. Actually both basketball players as well, which is interesting.
One was very successful, another one as well, all of that, blah blah blah, right? And so it’s all through long periods of time, different periods zone, so you know. Anyway, and what has happened, so I dumped them both, right?
Not at the same time. As I said, it was from two different periods of time. Because they’d been flaky and because they were not giving me the standard that I like or I want or I had before and I’m like okay, this is not good enough, this is not even close, there is no way.
So what has happened, these guys, both of them are literally acting the same way. Both of them are dating women because okay, fine, you don’t want it, I’m not into you. I’m like okay, fine, you know, no one’s gonna be chasing you, right? So I break up, we get furious, like totally frustrated. They go off, they date their low value woman, right?
And then after a while because they basically take them for granted. It’s easy to be charming, all of that, be successful. It’s easy for them to get those girls, right, because they literally put themselves on a plate. So we date this girl, this girl, this girl, that girl. The girls start to chase them, they bored to hell.
They’re like okay, who I would be interested in again, who’s not chasing me? Like you know, ’cause a guy loves uncertainty. Oh, Greta, let’s get in touch with Greta again.
They get in touch with me again. Let’s say half a year or a year later, they try and be charming again. Like when I see the red flags all again, it’s like the standard, they’re not giving me the standard. I don’t go on a date or I go on a date and I’m like that’s not good enough standard and I stopped. Okay, and then we do the same thing again.
Be like oh shit, Greta is so annoying and they start going for the low value girls again. They play the field, all of that, it gets bored, they go back to me again. Literally two guys are doing the same thing.
One guy has been doing this for 10 years, so one guy has been like literally pursuing me for 10 years and doing this thing over and over and over again. It’s ridiculous. And so it comes to the point that he is hooked on me because I’m behaving high value, right, and he can’t have me.
But in the meantime he’s dating all these doormats and he doesn’t understand why he’s not falling in love with them and why he’s like chased, but it’s just like yeah. So basically guys who would do that, they dig themselves a hole because they are too scared to invest or to charm a high value girl. They literally are too scared to do that, so we go for low value girls. Because most girls pursue them, they can see those girls at the last minute, they can make them all emotional, they can make them all crazy.
Those girls give them a lot of safety. They basically use, abuse, jump to the next one, the next one, and the next one. They got totally bored, they don’t fall in love, and then they end up being dumped. Like numb, you know, like they literally feel numb. And then they go like oh my god, I’m not experiencing love.
I’m still thinking about Greta because I can’t have her. I’m gonna go for her. He goes for you and that’s again the same story. There is no standard, no level, the same flaky guy, so what are you gonna do with that? Go date your doormats ’cause that’s what you deserve.
You know, like you just don’t. There are, ladies, lots of guys who will give you the standard, who will invest into you. And it’s never necessarily the catch, you know, never like there’s, flaky is not a catch, okay? Keep it in mind, flaky is never a catch. If you start with flaky, you let it go, you don’t look back.
A guy who has a standard, a guy who is being a gent, a guy who knows how to treat you right, that’s a catch. A guy with standards, that’s a catch. Okay, here we go. “I am an Aries woman “and am masculine and feminine by nature. “I cannot be with beta male, hell no.” Yeah, I understand. “We went to a party, then I slept at his place “and left at noon. “No sex, no making out, and abstinent and told him so. “He is okay. “Is that high value or low value?” To sleep at his place? I need to know more. Like how many times have you seen him?
What is your relationship like? You know, is he investing into you? Sleeping at a guy’s place and not doing anything, it’s not low value and it’s not high value. Things just happen sometimes, you know, so I wouldn’t categorize it into low value or high value. I mean flaky, low investment, yes, exactly.
Is it okay, okay, let me see something that I haven’t seen before. Someone, I mean. I have a SoundCloud on long-distance relationships.
And ladies, long-distance relationships are very similar to everyday relationships. He still needs to come after you, he still needs to invest into you, he still needs to be the one calling you and stuff like that so it’s literally the same thing. You need to still let him lead you. He needs to be the one flying to you as well. So it’s not much of a difference. “We want the upper hand but we are unhappy in the long run.” Yes, exactly.
They dig themselves a hole by being too scared to invest. You know, like they dig themselves a hole so we end up being like not falling in love because we are too scared to invest. So we’re not happy but it’s like, we like going in the cycle. And this is what is annoying me a lot again. These dating coaches for men.
I’m not talking, there is some good ones, right? But like a lot of them tell guys how to get the low value girls, you know? So how you should not invest, how to get women to chase you and stuff like that. So if you are doing these strategies and you are getting women to chase you and pursue you, you’re basically, you’re done because you’re not gonna fall in love with that woman because she’s not gonna fulfill your love needs, because she’s giving you safety and security so you’ll just take advantage of that. You’ll use and abuse or you’ll be like oh, I don’t know, you’re so perfect, but for some reason I just don’t love you.
Why? Because she’s chasing, she’s pursuing. So this is what is kind of making me a bit furious, you know, because it’s like dating coaches for women, we usually coach women how to find the love, how to enjoy the love, whereas dating coaches for men, yeah, that kinda makes sense. Dating coaches for men coach man how to have sex.
This is what it is. Women, I just answered my own questions. Women look for love, guys look for sex, that’s what it is.
So dating coaches for men coach men how to have sex, not to find love. There we go. (laughs) Here we go, just answered my own question. “Aha moment on a live. “Is it okay to tell the man “that the way he’s treating you isn’t good enough?” Pull away. Pull away instead. Show him with your action.
Don’t spend your time with him if the way he’s treating you is not good enough. Instead of nagging, pull away, show him with your action. If he’s treating you but it’s not good enough, like don’t go on that date with him the next time. Be like okay, didn’t enjoy the last one, why should I go on the next one?
Let him freak out and pursue you. That is better. “Yeah, every man that’s been after me “except one was after sex.” Well, usually guys are after sex. That’s fine.
You don’t need to be dumping them just because they’re trying to get you to get into your bed on the first date. Like in London, if you’re going on a date. I’m just kind of thinking like to the dates I’ve been to, has ever been one guy who has not either invited me over or himself over?
Probably has not. Literally every date you go on to, a guy will try and get into your pants. But then it’s up to you to say no.
It’s up to you to say no. So when you say no and you say, you know, like I’m a bit old-fashioned or I don’t move so quickly or it’s not my style to move so quickly or anything like that, then you set in the speed for dating. Just because he’s telling you to jump, you don’t need to jump. Just because he’s trying to get into your bed, you don’t need to accept it. Just because he’s telling you to do something, you have your own opinion.
You control yourself, you control your own life. You know, so just because he says that, I would not ditch the guy. He’s trying his luck. Let him try his luck.
You know, you can always say no. If he’s into you when you say no, he’s asking you for another date, cool. Go on that second date, say no again.
You know, let him bond to you through spending time together. Okay, ladies, so I’m gonna go. Again, come to my meet-and-greet, 8th of February. 8th of February in London in a very, very exclusive private members club.
You can also book dinner and share it. It’s gonna be amazing. All the links are in my video description. Okay, so yeah, ladies, thank you so much for watching.
Have a beautiful day. Let me know in the comments below, did you enjoy this live? Yeah, you liked it? “Great video and advice. “Could you please always go live the same time?” I will try to go live at the same time.
I’m planning right now to do two lives a month, so about two lives a month. And the other days, I’ll do the videos. We’ll see how it goes.
I’m kind of testing the lives. I’m testing the connections, the lives and stuff, so we’ll see how it goes. That’s so amazing, also many thank yous.
Thank you, ladies, thank you so much. Amazing, perfect, brilliant. Love you all too. Have a beautiful day. Don’t forget to like this, to like it.
Share it with your friends and yeah, check out all the things that I mentioned in my YouTube description. I also love it, how my anxiety just kind of went away and I started like the live on anxiety and it literally disappeared during the live. (laughs) I love it. Okay, ladies.
Kisses, have a beautiful day.