Straight Talk: Putting Out on the First Date || STEVE HARVEY

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– Hi Steve, hi ladies. – Hi. – Recently, I went on a first date with a guy, and we ended up having sex on the first date, and my homegirls is giving me a lot of smoke about it, because they feel like I should’ve waited. So my question is, how can I still be that confident sexual woman, and not be judged by men? – All right so here’s my thing, plain and simple, if you see a future with a person, I think that you should wait to have sex, however, if you don’t care, and you’re going out to have your needs met, there should be no shaming and there’s nothing wrong with having sex on the first date. That’s my feeling about it.

Oh he’s so mad. – I love the fact that you’re a confident woman, you are beautiful, you said you’re confident in your skills honey, you know what that means, she can put it on you, and you know he might come back for that, but… – Oh he did. – Okay! I happen to think, and my grandmother always told me, that the woman is the prize, and that men are hunters, and they like a chase. So just naturally I’ve always waited to have sex, because I wanted to make sure that, first of all, does he deserve it? – Well you know, listen, it’s 2019, okay. A man has been able to go out and have a one night stand, and obviously he’s having a one night stand with someone, he’s not just out there by himself, but the stigma against a man will never be what it is against a woman. Because a woman is the gatekeeper to sex.

A man will always say yes, a woman is just, it’s whether the woman says yes or no.https://appadvice.com/app/christian-dating-cdff/625001689 If you are out there to get your needs met, you were doing it safely, you were doing it consensually, there’s nothing wrong with it. If you were trying to be serious about a longterm lasting relationship with a man, then it does set a precedent, that you are not actually getting to know him as well as maybe you should. So that’s the only thing where I think, maybe it can set the wrong precedent to the other person, especially if you just met them. (clapping) – I appreciate everything everybody said. That ain’t how this work.

– Hi Steve, hi ladies. – Hi. – Recently, I went on a first date with a guy, and we ended up having sex on the first date, and my homegirls is giving me a lot of smoke about it, because they feel like I should’ve waited. So my question is, how can I still be that confident sexual woman, and not be judged by men? – All right so here’s my thing, plain and simple, if you see a future with a person, I think that you should wait to have sex, however, if you don’t care, and you’re going out to have your needs met, there should be no shaming and there’s nothing wrong with having sex on the first date. That’s my feeling about it.

Oh he’s so mad. – I love the fact that you’re a confident woman, you are beautiful, you said you’re confident in your skills honey, you know what that means, she can put it on you, and you know he might come back for that, but… – Oh he did. – Okay! I happen to think, and my grandmother always told me, that the woman is the prize, and that men are hunters, and they like a chase. So just naturally I’ve always waited to have sex, because I wanted to make sure that, first of all, does he deserve it? – Well you know, listen, it’s 2019, okay. A man has been able to go out and have a one night stand, and obviously he’s having a one night stand with someone, he’s not just out there by himself, but the stigma against a man will never be what it is against a woman. Because a woman is the gatekeeper to sex.

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A man will always say yes, a woman is just, it’s whether the woman says yes or no. If you are out there to get your needs met, you were doing it safely, you were doing it consensually, there’s nothing wrong with it. If you were trying to be serious about a longterm lasting relationship with a man, then it does set a precedent, that you are not actually getting to know him as well as maybe you should. So that’s the only thing where I think, maybe it can set the wrong precedent to the other person, especially if you just met them. (clapping) – I appreciate everything everybody said. That ain’t how this work.

See what happens to women when you test drive, you wind up getting drove. That ain’t what you do. It’s not what you do. Can I ask you something?

Now your a beautiful sister, obviously, but let me ask you this question. This date that you went on. This is all you want from it? Is just that? – No definitely not. We’ve been on another date since. – So you really want it to be more than that? – Just in general, I wanted a relationship, so I went on the date, you know just to see where it would go. – Well, it went. – Mm hmm, and it still going. – [Steve] And it still going. – It still going. – That’s the thing, she went on a second date with him.

So like he’s obviously interested. – You know how many second dates I’d have went on when the woman gave me something the first night. – Yeah, he’s interested in more sex. – You passing it out like that? Oh, I’m back tomorrow. – Oh I didn’t know that. Okay, okay. So it’s not like hit it and quit it? – I got the idea, here’s what you do sister. Next time you talk, just say, “You know what, Imma just hold up a little bit, let me regroup, let me get myself together, this is going so fast, I’m finding myself, I really care about you, I think this could be something special, but I really would like to know that that’s what I’m feeling so let’s you and I settle down with the sex for a minute, that’s all you got to do.

That’s all you got to do. – And sit back and wait. – [Steve] Yep. Now if you don’t hear from him no more, then you know what it was. I would find out now before you fool around and fall in love then you gonna be on the strain for years. – Agreed. – I’m just telling you, we’ll be right back, we’ve got more straight talk right after this.

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