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So the other day I was chatting to a friends and she came to me with a very particular problem, and when I was actually speaking to her I discovered that this problem actually wasn’t very unique to her and the situation was was, that she was about to go on a date with a guy a guy shoots sounds and she was very very attractive very interested in him and then all of a sudden before the date even on the day she messages are saying “I’m sorry I can’t make it… I have something on tonight that are completely forgot about.” and the problem I want to talk to you today about is the concept of “flaking.” So when a guy flakes on you, and this isn’t something that just happens to like, to girls, this is actually something happens to the guys as well. So if you’re a guy watching this, this is also for you, but if you’re watching this this might also you know be worth something. There is a distinction though because someone who flakes on you and someone who cancelled on you for a reason are two completely different things and normally you can tell because if someone actually flakes on you because they’re not that interested in you or they’re not actually quite sure about, you know, what’s actually going to happen or maybe they got something with their ex and that’s stopping them; they might give you some lame excuse or something that’s a bit more, kind of, a bit more up in the air a bit more vague.

You can normally tell if someone’s actually flaking on your not. If someone actually genuinely has an excuse it probably will be very congruent with who they are.https://www.facebook.com/dating So, they, you know, if they have to work late it’s probably because they actually have to work late…. OR… if they have a family commitment that they probably forgot about they probably have someone with the genuine family connections. The unfortunate thing with flaking is that you can often tell if someone’s actually flaking on you or if they generally have a reason.

The thing is with flaking if someone actually flakes you they’re probably not going to want to come on a second date with you and others have radio science or something afterwards. So how you overcome this is actually quite interesting because this is something that I used to do just by accident and I used to do this with friends and then even when i was starting to date I just started to do this with my own, like anyone I was about to see and it’s something I discovered almost by accident but out of necessity. What I want to give you is a way that will actually allow you to know if they’re about to flake on you or not… and it’s a good way to judge their investment levels and so the guy actually is very interested in going on a date with you he’ll be more invested in you then if he’s actually not that into you. If he’s just, like, looks like, you know, just wants a bit of fun or maybe he thinks it’s not worth his time, or something, like that which is a bit of a dick move but if that’s the case he’s probably not going to be very invested in you; and we call this the “day before text message” and it’s just a simple message that you can send him and I’ll write this in the comments below so you can have a look where you just say something simple like “hey so-and-so are you still up for tomorrow” that’s it. It’s not too complicated and what happens next is the interesting part because if he’s actually that into and if he is actually invested in you his response might be like “yes I’m so excited” you’ll tell these keen from the ways energy of going it is not that invested in you… he might be “like yeah I think so” or he might give you a non-committal answer.

So the other day I was chatting to a friends and she came to me with a very particular problem, and when I was actually speaking to her I discovered that this problem actually wasn’t very unique to her and the situation was was, that she was about to go on a date with a guy a guy shoots sounds and she was very very attractive very interested in him and then all of a sudden before the date even on the day she messages are saying “I’m sorry I can’t make it… I have something on tonight that are completely forgot about.” and the problem I want to talk to you today about is the concept of “flaking.” So when a guy flakes on you, and this isn’t something that just happens to like, to girls, this is actually something happens to the guys as well. So if you’re a guy watching this, this is also for you, but if you’re watching this this might also you know be worth something. There is a distinction though because someone who flakes on you and someone who cancelled on you for a reason are two completely different things and normally you can tell because if someone actually flakes on you because they’re not that interested in you or they’re not actually quite sure about, you know, what’s actually going to happen or maybe they got something with their ex and that’s stopping them; they might give you some lame excuse or something that’s a bit more, kind of, a bit more up in the air a bit more vague.

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You can normally tell if someone’s actually flaking on your not. If someone actually genuinely has an excuse it probably will be very congruent with who they are. So, they, you know, if they have to work late it’s probably because they actually have to work late…. OR… if they have a family commitment that they probably forgot about they probably have someone with the genuine family connections. The unfortunate thing with flaking is that you can often tell if someone’s actually flaking on you or if they generally have a reason.

The thing is with flaking if someone actually flakes you they’re probably not going to want to come on a second date with you and others have radio science or something afterwards. So how you overcome this is actually quite interesting because this is something that I used to do just by accident and I used to do this with friends and then even when i was starting to date I just started to do this with my own, like anyone I was about to see and it’s something I discovered almost by accident but out of necessity. What I want to give you is a way that will actually allow you to know if they’re about to flake on you or not… and it’s a good way to judge their investment levels and so the guy actually is very interested in going on a date with you he’ll be more invested in you then if he’s actually not that into you. If he’s just, like, looks like, you know, just wants a bit of fun or maybe he thinks it’s not worth his time, or something, like that which is a bit of a dick move but if that’s the case he’s probably not going to be very invested in you; and we call this the “day before text message” and it’s just a simple message that you can send him and I’ll write this in the comments below so you can have a look where you just say something simple like “hey so-and-so are you still up for tomorrow” that’s it. It’s not too complicated and what happens next is the interesting part because if he’s actually that into and if he is actually invested in you his response might be like “yes I’m so excited” you’ll tell these keen from the ways energy of going it is not that invested in you… he might be “like yeah I think so” or he might give you a non-committal answer.

If that’s the case if he gives you a non-committal answer, you pretty much have the right to cancel their and you might be saying like “hey ummmmmmmm… I’m someone who never cancels on appointments, who never cancels on, like, anything that I do” and that’s really good BUT… he’s probably going to cancel on you… if he’s not that invested… because chances are if you’ve sent that message to him and he’s giving you a non-committal answer… he’s probably going to bail on the day, probably gonna bail tomorrow and also with that message as well you’re actually giving him a chance to – pretty much bail on you the day before and you might be thinking like “but you know how do I stop flakes” like how do I get him on the date. I’m gonna be honest with you if he doesn’t want to be on the date with you… like that’s a blessing in disguise… AND the reason why we do it the day before as opposed to like an hour before or half an hour before or like three hours before is just so you know that if he’s going to cancel on you you can make other plans… like you’ve got enough time to kind of recover or even look after yourself a bit more and if you’re upset by it all? Just remember that it’s not you, it’s him, like he’s the one who does want to go and so therefore that’s a great blessing in disguise which means you have more time to look after yourself.

ANYWAY if you have any great stories about flakes or funny reasons… or what ever, like, “oh I’m sorry I can’t come i’m washing my hair” like comment below I always love those stories because I think they’re the funniest things in the world .. ahh… yeah cool… make sure to subscribe for more videos on how love and life and the two come together all right *kisses* Harvey Hooke, see ya later.

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