Uncle C, back in the office and today I’m going to be telling you specifically how to maintain a relationship and why women pull back. Because I’m getting a lot of comments flooded in the section uncle see how do I maintain the relationship? How do I make sure that my woman doesn’t pull back from me? How do I make sure that there’s cohesion and that everything’s smooth? How do I do all these things?
Okay, and men are at a point in time right now when they are more lost than ever. And the dating game is getting more confusing and harder than ever. And I’m going to tell you why in a second.
Uncle C, back in the office and today I’m going to be telling you specifically how to maintain a relationship and why women pull back. Because I’m getting a lot of comments flooded in the section uncle see how do I maintain the relationship? How do I make sure that my woman doesn’t pull back from me? How do I make sure that there’s cohesion and that everything’s smooth? How do I do all these things?
Okay, and men are at a point in time right now when they are more lost than ever. And the dating game is getting more confusing and harder than ever. And I’m going to tell you why in a second.
The reason why it is becoming so absolutely confusing for men is because they’re focusing on the shiny objects and the tactics before they actually fix the pillars of excellence that makes the man a man first. You see, men are out there throwing that pipe everywhere. But the problem with that is that if they’re not actually fixing the man First they have no belonging.https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=oSKj02nuVF0 To be setting those hooks in those luers out, okay, you’re going to set yourself up for failure if you don’t do the key things that I’m about to tell you throughout this Now before we begin today, I’m doing a free live broadcast of my attraction masterclass to teach you step by step specifically, how to maintain attraction in a relationship, how to make sure that things don’t go cold and how to make sure that everything is smooth and that you can actually maneuver the dating game in the correct format.
You’re going to want to register for that below. Because I’m only running it at certain times. It’s my exclusive masterclass.
Moving on, what is the shiny object syndrome that everybody’s going to focus on what you see even This video is going to have a shiny object, there’s two of them. The two things that’s going to keep a relationship smooth. The two tips that I’m giving you as to how to maintain a relationship is going to be the balance between seduction and the balance between stability.
Okay, but here’s the thing if you don’t understand all of this stuff up top All of these strong pillars of excellence up top that you have to understand before moving on to this, you’re not going to succeed, you’re not going to have success in the dating game. Okay, because this is like icing on the cake. But we need to structure the whole goddamn cake first.
And that’s the problem. If you don’t have any cake batter and you just try to spray icing in that pan that’s going to be a wedding cake or that’s going to be a terrible birthday cake when you try to serve that to some guests. People are going to be upset.
How do we make sure people are not upset? Well, here’s what we do. Number one, you have to understand that you must be a full stack man. I’m gonna let that sink in. And unless you hear that for a second, what is a full stack man?
A full sack man is going to be a man that has every part of his life figured out and is on that path to success to getting it figured out or he’s at least working towards it. Okay, maybe you don’t have everything going for you. Maybe you don’t have everything aligned, right. But the key thing is that you’re working Working towards it.
What do I mean by this? What I mean by this is your health, your wellness, your mental health, and your purpose has to come first. You need to become a full stack man.
First what I mean by this, if you’re a man who has health issues if you’re overweight, if you don’t look strong, if you don’t look masculine, you’re going to be hit with a lot of problems later on down the road. Why is that? It’s because you’re not actually putting in the steps in place that it’s going to take to build the man to give you that masculine edge. Another thing is the guys often struggle with their money.
They struggle with their finances. Fellas, here’s the thing if you struggle with money and finances, you probably do not belong dating right now. There’s some things we have to fix first. So what you have to understand is you have to understand that you must be full stack.
You must come full circle when it comes to dating. Because that way when you do use these shiny objects, when you do use the tactics, she has something that She notices is correct about this individual. That’s number one. Number two, you have to understand what league you’re in.
And I hate to break it to you. But what I’m seeing is I’m seeing a lot of these men, all gravitating towards the same top few women, the same women that have 16 inch waist and 30 inch ships. It’s like fellas, you gotta realize something too, unless you’re a full stack man. Unless you’re like a top 5% or a top one percenter. The reason why a lot of you keep getting your heart broke is because you keep trying to date in the wrong pool and in the wrong league.
Most of you are probably not where you want to be in life. But yet you think that you’re entitled to the type of woman that a top tier man is able to get. That’s what’s leading you down the wrong path to you can’t maintain a relationship if she constantly feels and she constantly feels like she’s above that man. If she feels like she’s above that man, either socially, or in status or emotionally, she feels like She has power over him, she’s going to flee, she’s going to run, she’s not going to appreciate him.
That’s what you have to understand to you got to play in your league, you got to play in your pool. The next this is going to be one of the most important for this, you have to start to understand that good sex equals false love. Okay, because here’s what I see oftentimes men who are getting into relationships in the first place, they’re not loving the human. They’re loving her sex.
And when you love her sex, it’s going to play with your emotions as a man, it’s going to twist and turn and tangle how you actually feel about that individual. And the problem is that if you start having sex with a woman who you don’t necessarily know if she has the right human qualities that you would want to pair bond with, this can get extremely messy. Okay, there’s a reason why the whole culture is hyper sexual. There’s a reason why divorce rates are now over 50%. There’s a reason why women are pulling back and they’re just going from God to God to God, there’s a reason why men are just trying to screw as many women as they can in a year and watching all of these different channels and pill callers and all of this stuff that’s going on.
Okay, here’s what you have to realize. Good sex can equal false love. And I put in parentheses usually, what I mean by this is people put the cart before the horse. They put the sex before the human.
Now if we reverse that, and we start to qualify the human on, is this a human I could potentially pair bond with based on the traits that she has and how she displays herself. Okay, now you can maybe take that next step towards sex. And you don’t have to listen to me. You can be a guy who sleeps around you can be a guy who keeps doing that, but I’m going to let you know something straight up.
You’re going to keep getting with the exact same problems that you were hit with in the past. You’re going to keep getting hit with the pullbacks you’re going to keep getting hit with the I don’t know I just need time. You’re going to keep getting hit with I don’t know if I feel the same way about you anymore. Why is that?
It’s because your making the same mistakes over and over and over. So if we look at what I mean by this, I bulleted this up to another point. The point I want to make is I need everybody to stop dancing with the devil. What I mean by this men are so bitter at women for being sexual, and for posting those pictures on Instagram and for flaunting their sexuality.
But guess what every single man in culture only qualifies them on this. And then when every single man only qualifies him on this one, she acts the wrong way and she strays or she pulls back or she cheats, she starts to get shamed for it, when in reality, that was all that man qualified her with in the first place. You see, fellas, the way to make relationship cohesion go better is to not necessarily try to change how the women are acting. It’s to change how the men qualify their women.
You see, because what we have to do as a culture is we have to make all of the men better. You can’t just use tactics and try to apply them unless you have a rhyme and reason for it, the more you keep liking all of those pictures of her with her asset, the more you keep qualifying her on how the sexes and our body shape, you got to realize you’re dancing with the devil. That is a recipe for disaster when it comes to actually dating. Because if that’s what she’s qualified on, when another option comes along that she hasn’t built trust and respect and communication with that next option is going to be choosing because it’s just a little bit different. It’s a little less boring at that time.
And guess what, when that guy starts to qualifier on those same shapes, you do not do anything to separate yourself from that man to the next. You see you win as a man. Not by learning the most tactics. You win as a man by being better than all of the other options. That is how you win.
And when you pair that with understanding your league and being a full stack, man, it’s going to be pretty hard for her to want to stray. Which brings me to my next point. Women do not stray from men who are doing everything right. Women do not stray from men who are acting masks.
Who are on their purpose? Who are building their business who are building their body who have charisma who make them feel like a woman? No, they’re going to stray from men who are doing everything wrong. That’s it. They stray from the men doing everything wrong.
When the guy starts acting reverse when the guy starts acting out of his role, when the guy starts acting like her, she tends to leave. Okay, so you have to actually understand how men and women date and how men and women marry or how men and women carry in a relationship. I’ve explained this before. This is called the dominance hierarchy. Okay, so women date across and up.
Actually, let’s reverse this for a second. Men are going to date across and down dominance hierarchies. What do I mean by this?
I mean that if you have a guy who’s like a little bit higher in success, let’s say this is guys like a dealer Mercedes Benz and makes a quarter million a year, he will sober down in rank. And he will even though this guy lower status here. Let’s say she’s a server at Applebee’s.
But she’s 20 years old and she’s super hot and he thinks she’s really sexy. He will go down in rank and still sleep with her still be in a relationship with her regardless of status mandate, across and down. You got to realize women date across and up, which is why you need to understand what league you’re in. So the thing is, is that if she’s an average everyday high school girl, she’s going to want somebody on the football team. Okay, and if she’s a cheerleader, she’s going to want somebody on the varsity football team.
If she’s the head sheeler the cheerleader she wants to star quarterback. Okay, and this just keeps going up and up and up and up and up and up. She’s a maxim supermodel a swimsuit model.
She’s only going to want ASAP Rocky. You got to realize what tier you’re and you got to realize what leader and that is how women date they date, across and up, men date across and down. If you can start to put all of those things together. Well, what you’re going to start to understand is that the shiny objects that I have Place right here. These shiny objects are going to be so simplified to us.
So the thing is, is that everything when it comes to women is going to be a balance of seduction and stability. Which means that if you’re in a relationship, the most important thing on the side of seduction is going to be that you have some sort of sex appeal to you. Now, this is going to be everything this is going to be how you carry yourself. This is your charisma. This is your masculine frame, this is how you make her feel.
So what that means is that if you’re sexy, feels important, you need to look sound, walk, talk and act masculine. If you’re not in the gym. I don’t know if you’re still watching this channel and you’re not in the gym. I don’t know what you’re doing. One of the first ways a man can start to walk talk and feel more masculine is to look like a brick shithouse.
So start to build the body first start to build the man first, it’s going to increase sex appeal. Okay, how you make her feel. If you can make her feel like a woman if you can get her wet.
If you can turn her on, that’s going to make her feel like you are her lover. Not just another man she knows a not just a friend of her lover. That’s very, very important. Okay, so how do you make her feel and your masculine frame is everything? Are you breaking frame?
And are you going emotional? Are you constantly in little Loverboy mode? Or are you able to be a rock solid man regardless of her beauty, this is extremely important as a man. The second is you have to set true verbal boundaries in the relationship.
What I mean by this is women oftentimes enter into a relationship without with a man who has not yet set any pillars of excellence for himself, or explained to her how the relationship has to run. Basically, she does not have a world that she can fall into. She doesn’t have any set rules, set regulations set boundaries. What you have to address as a man is you have to verbally say, this is how I expect this relationship to run.
As a man, I’m a man of my word. I believe in what I say. And because of that, I have set things that I need from a woman as a man, if you set That boundary, she knows what the expectations are.
Meaning you can verbally say, Listen, if your Snapchat is on Tinder, if your Snapchat is in that Instagram bio, if I start to see that you’re replying to these direct messages, I have no issues leaving, and you have to be stronger than the sex. It doesn’t matter how good the sex is, it doesn’t matter how good like any of these qualities are with her. If she breaks the rules of the boundaries that you set, you’re willing to walk away, you’re not being a dick about it. You’re not being a fuck face that screams real loud and gets argumentative. You’re not being emotional, you’re being logical.
You said this is the rule. This is the regulation. This is how I operate as a man. This is what I expect of my woman. The reason why most you men have such women issues is because you have no upfront expectations in the relationship.
She thinks she can get away with anything, which is why a lot of you guys that are heartbroken, it’s because you set no upfront boundaries. The last when it comes to sex seduction is to make her actually feel like a woman. Okay, she’s not your best friend, and she’s not your roommate.
So all this, all this Loverboy stuff where you guys start to finally take like a friendly role in the relationship where it’s just like this coexisted, living or coexisted cohesion, that’s not going to work. Because she’s going to start to crave the guy that was doing everything right from the beginning again, this is what you have to understand. Some people call this a different thing I call this seduction. The second side of how to run the relationship is going to come down to stability. Okay, stability is huge.
What I mean by stability is this is when she’s going to look at the man for some provisioning tactics or some provider type qualities. Do you have your finances together? Do you have your money together?
Does it look like if shit hit the fan and she was in times of distress? Would you be the chicken with the head cut off that doesn’t know how to do anything or could you actually hold down the fort. You see those of you that want a relationship and those of you that want families This is very, very important because she constantly asking one question or head.
She’s saying if there was kids involved, if this man impregnated me, would he be strong enough to actually provide? Would he be strong enough to help lead the family? Would he be strong enough to actually take care of these kids? Or would he fleet that’s what she’s wondering.
Biologically, she’s hardwired to find the strongest mate that she can possibly find that makes her feel like a woman and that is attractive, but it’s a fine balance and a fine line because in a relationship, you have to make sure that you’re doing these things right with your life. This part is going to come down to being the full stack man coming full circle. Because here’s the thing if you’re a guy who doesn’t have your finances right, she’s going to want to find another guy that has that more together.
A lot of you guys say that you hate rich man. A lot of you guys shame rich man. You say well, she just likes him for his money. It’s like know what comes with money is immense value.
What came with that money. Money was a man who was typically on his purpose. What came with that money was a man who was sexy because he started to lay the pillars of excellence to carry out his life. No one just shit out a million dollars and gave it to the guy. So if the dude has money, there’s a very strong chance he has some of these good traits over here going for him too.
And the thing is, as if she does like him for money, you got to realize, okay, maybe that is true a little bit, but you got to remember originally, you probably didn’t like her for her. You liked her for how she was shaped and how fat harass was. So it goes both ways.
You have to stop shaming women for this. You can’t shame them for what they’re attracted to. Okay, the next thing can you be the emotional rock for stability? What this means is that when she’s in distress when her day is haywire, she’s going to be wondering, is this man going to turn into me?
Is this man going to get emotional with me? Or is this man going to be my rock? Is he my strength foundation?
Is he my pillar? Because what happens is She has all these hormones. She has all these crazy days.
She has all these crazy thoughts. She has all these crazy sub communications between co workers. There’s some day she wants to come home and fuck, there’s some day she wants to come home and eat a box of cookies. There’s some day she wants to come home and watch Grey’s Anatomy for six hours. There’s some day she wants to laugh.
There’s some day she wants to cry, her emotions are up and down. There’s sometimes she’s on her period, you have to actually understand that she is looking for her opposite, not her same. That means if she is in an emotional turmoil on an emotional spiked woman that day, that means that you have to be the guy that steady the guy that’s consistent, the guy that she can rely on the guy that doesn’t flip flop personality so fast and get emotional with her. Because what happens with that is arguments destruction, and then a corrupted relationship.
You gotta realize as a man, you have no place getting emotional and arguing. You have a place, being in the full stack men. Understand understanding what Lee you’re in understanding where you’re at with your finances, your body, your health, your self development and all of this, the stability and the seduction tactics only happen when you understand the dominance hierarchy. When you understand that qualifying women’s strictly on sex, you’re dancing with the devil. That is how you do it.
Okay because like I said, women do not stray from men who are doing everything right they only stray from men who are doing everything wrong. Fellas If you liked this video, I want you to hit the like button. Subscribe and leave a comment for what you would like to see also.
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